60% OFF Rori Raye Dating CD Program: USED ONCE! Reconnect Your Relationship Start Price USD 60.00 Current Price USD 60.00 Time Left - Bid Count 1 Buy It Now Price USD 60.00 Reserve Price - Start Time Wednesday, November 19, 2008 End Time Thursday, November 20, 2008 Location Los Angeles, CA See more about '60% OFF Rori Raye Dating CD Program: USED ONCE!' Description Retails for $150. Get my used copy for more than off!  The cover of the CD case is stained, but the CDs work great.     “What If You Could InstantlyCreate Such A Deep, Emotionally Powerful Connection With A ManThat He’ll Want To Stay With You Forever, No Matter How BadYour Relationship Is Or HowDistant He Seems... ?” Now you can learn, step-by-step, exactly What To Do and What To Stop Doing so you can quickly transform your relationship and start feeling so relaxed, confident, and happy inside that your man will absolutely CRAVE being with you - always.If you're ready to see your love life transform overnight... completely change how men see you and relate to you... quickly raise your “relationship self-esteem”... and finally start allowing your emotions to connect your man to you on a deep and lasting level(instead of you accidentally pushing him away)... Then I have some questions for you...      * Have you ever found yourself completely thrown by a man who suddenly withdraws after treating you like you're his soul mate for months? Where he needs more “space” and you feel left hanging?      Or things seem fine between you and a man, you're still seeing each other - but it feels like he's stalling and the relationship is stuck somewhere way short of where you want it to be? And you worry that he'll never get moving forward again?      * Are you feeling almost desperate for commitment, and angry that you have to even think about asking for it?      * Do you feel lost inside your love for a man when it’s really strong, to where almost feels like an obsession?      * Are you almost numb inside sometimes, and afraid to open up to a man because you’re not sure you can trust him?      * Do you feel jealous of other women who have great relationships? And jealous of every woman your man even looks at?      * Do you worry that your insecurities are driving a man away?      * Do you give and give, and love and love and get so little in return you’re feeling almost desperate for attention and affection?      * Are you wondering if you're in a dead-end relationship, and beating yourself up about it? Running it in your head over and over again – telling yourself that you “should have seen the red flags” early on, even though, deep down, you know the chemistry was so great you probably would have ignored the red flags even if you'd seen them?      * Do you wonder what those red flags even look like?      * Are you so frustrated about what’s going on – or NOT going on – in your relationship that you just feel angry and confused all the time?      * Do you find yourself always being “understanding” about a man’s stress and his work and family situations - even though it puts you on hold and makes you feel terrible?      * Are you stuffing down all your feelings and watching what you say all the time because you’re afraid of “rocking the boat” with a man, or expressing that you’re angry?      * Is your man withdrawing and giving you no idea what’s wrong – so that you’re panicking and doing everything you can to try and bring him back?      * Are you thinking that the man you’re with is your “one shot” and that if this one fails you’ll be alone forever?      * Are you finding yourself almost “out-of-control,” where you’re calling him (or at least wanting to) all the time, texting him, emailing him, and trying to get him to spend more time with you? “If He’s Withdrawing, Or Your Relationship Has Just Stopped Moving Forward - You CAN Turn It Around – Exactly The Way I Did.”     If you've answered “Yes” to any of these questions – if you’ve ever been in a situation like these, or are finding yourself in one now, you are absolutely not alone     I was able to come up with those questions because I once said “Yes” to ALL of them.     I was once where you are now. But then everything changed...      I’ll tell you what happened.      When my marriage first started to go bad, it seemed to me that it came out of nowhere.      He’d always paid me so much attention.      I believed through and through that I was really and truly important to him, that we were connected and bonded, and that he’d always behave like a prince our whole lives together.      Our LOVE would hold us together.     And then it just went cold.      It seemed like he had no interest in me – he didn’t even want sex much anymore.      The look on his face screamed that he’d rather be somewhere else than with me.      Work was more important.      Playing music was more important.      His friends and family were more important.      I probably don’t have to explain how desperately unhappy I became. And my anxiety level went through the roof as I went sleepless night after night.      Part of why it was so hard, what that everything suddenly became so different from the way our relationship had been BEFORE we got married.      Back then, I was able to manage my fears and upsets and keep myself from falling into a needy and clingy place.      I was so good at it, that I was able to be with him in a way that compelled him to propose.      In fact, he told me recently that he just knew if he didn’t ask me to marry him, he’d lose me.      Without pretending or playing games, I was able to feel strong enough about myself and what I wanted – marriage and a family - to always keep him interested and moving toward major commitment.      But as soon as the wedding planning started, I could just feel it all go down the tubes.      All of a sudden I looked at him as a husband instead of a boyfriend, and things changed.      If he even needed a moment to himself, I took it as a REJECTION.      All of a sudden I stopped seeing him as a separate person and saw him as my “Other-half.”      When he’d forget to take out the garbage, or not do things for me that he’d automatically done before, I felt frustrated – and then I started to feel scared that he’d NEVER take care of me again.      My need to take control took me over, and before long I was doing EVERYTHING wrong.      I was making many dangerous mistakes, and pushing him so far away from me I might as well have been shoving him with my fists.      And I couldn’t even see that I was doing it.      As a result, my new, wonderful husband was even starting to turn mean.      Instead of having fun and laughing with me, he was using his clever sense of humor to put me down and make me feel bad.      And I felt absolutely powerless.      I tried everything I knew. I was nicer, I cooked more, I cleaned up more, I took care of our daughter and tried to stay out of the way when he was playing with her so they could have some one-on-one time.      I tried initiating sex and was turned down.      Over time, my husband withdrew more and more, and soon we turned to therapy... thinking it was the big move we needed to make that would fix things.      But all the therapy did was make me angrier – at him, and at myself for not knowing how to fix this... and for things being the way they were in the first place.      Needless to say, he didn’t respond well either to our “therapy.”      I thought we were done for. I felt helpless, hopeless, undesirable and stupid. And really, really angry.      Though I had no idea what to do, I noticed that the relationship seemed to get worse, and my husband started to go cold and withdraw after the same kinds of situations.      That’s when I started to realize what was going on...      The light didn’t go on in my head overnight... but over time I learned to recognize what was at THE ROOT of everything that was going on in my marriage-      Our relationship was DISCONNECTED.      What was once a loving, committed, CONNECTED relationship had grown filled with distance, frustration and pain.      And before I could even THINK about UNDOING THE DAMAGE that I had caused, I had to first recognize how badly “disconnected” our relationship really was in order to start the process of change... How To Tell If Your Relationship Is “Disconnected”... And What ToDo About It      Chances are, you can relate to my feelings of frustration and anger when my relationship with my husband was falling apart.      If so, then odds are you’re noticing that the following things are happening with your man right now, or have been happening in the recent past: #1: The “Romance” is Dead      Remember when he whispered how much he loved you in your ear?      When he brought you flowers, remembered your favorite foods, called you to say “Hi” in the middle of the day?      What happened to romance? Now when you see him, he barely grunts hello, and you feel like he’s just going through the motions.      And when you spend time together, you have the feeling that he’s not fully there. That he may “love” you, but isn’t IN LOVE with you.      His touch is different.      When he holds you and kisses you he seems to be hanging back, almost as if his heart is closing up.      He hardly ever looks deeply into your eyes anymore, and conversation seems so superficial, instead of the personal, playful and romantic talks you used to have.      You’ve been telling yourself this is just a temporary thing, but you can’t help feeling more and more awful as you realize something else that’s going wrong... #2 – He’s less available and less interested      Not only do you feel the romance has completely disappeared, but you think the man you were once CRAZY about has completely changed.      Where he was once passionate, calling you all the time, making plans, affectionate, and attentive...      He’s suddenly turned into a cold fish.      He calls less.     He makes dates at the last minute, or not at all.      He initiates sex less often.      He seems to be paying attention to other women.      He never asks you about your day, or how you are or how you’re feeling.      He’s hardly ever available to spend time with you. He seems to be “busy” all the time.      He gets irritated VERY easily, and you’re always worried about “setting him off.”      No matter what you do, how sweet you are, how interested you act... he just gets more and more distant!      This can be so utterly frustrating that you just want to scream ALL THE TIME.      Worst of all... you feel powerless and confused, and you want the old “him” back.      You used to be so happy, and now... #3: You Feel Anxious, Miserable and Even Depressed All the Time      Because he’s been so distant, and because you can’t seem to “please” him like you used to, you’re constantly worried that you will drive him further and further away.      And those fears and anxieties make it impossible for you to be comfortable around him.      What if you say or do the wrong thing?      What if he is bored by you?      What if he leaves you once and for all?      You feel paralyzed by your fear and anger, and then even more tormented by guilt over everything that’s going on in your head.      All of this turns into a kind of “vicious cycle” where the worse you feel, the worse he responds, and the worse you feel... and on and on it goes as your relationship spirals downwards.      As he grows more distant, you try to bring him back by moving closer, but that only seems to work for a moment. He’s happy to take what you have to give – backrubs, meals, running errands, listening to him – but then as soon as he’s had enough, he goes away again emotionally.      Everything else in his life seems more important to him- from his friends to his work.      You start feeling afraid there’s another woman in his life, and panic sets in.      You try to talk about it with him, but that makes everything worse – every little word you say turns into a big argument, and soon you’re either fighting all the time, or you’re stuffing your real feelings down so deep inside you that you can barely feel ANYTHING.      It’s almost as though there never was any fun between you – now there’s only this horrible irritation and anger and upset and distance. Not Knowing What To DoAnd What To Stop Doing Dooms Us ToKeep Doing The Same Things ThatDon't Work Over And Over - UntilWe Finally Give Up, Or He Leaves       If you’re anything like I was, when your relationship is at its worst, and you feel completely confused about what to do, you do what feels right, no matter how it’s working, and you keep hoping that it eventually WILL WORK.      But the truth is, what we all instinctively want to do when our relationships become disconnected and our men pull away are the very things that make the problem worse!      Don’t keep shooting yourself in the foot. Stop right now and think about how this could be true for you in your relationship.      After doing this for myself, and after a lot of trial-and-error... I was amazed that I actually started to see a pattern.      The thing that’s both frustrating and amazing about the mistakes I was making that were only making things worse was that I was doing them on purpose!      What I mean is that the exact things I was taught to do – the things I thought I was supposed to do – the things I saw ALL women doing – were the very things that WEREN’T WORKING.      And now, after seeing all this and seeing how it all works, I know that nearly all women make these same mistakes.      Here’s what you’ll be happy to know...      Once I REALIZED the mistakes I was making, I was able to quickly reverse them, and my relationship turned itself around overnight.      Literally – overnight.      Every time I experimented with a new way of doing something or saying something that didn’t involve the old mistakes I kept making over and over, my man responded in a new way.      It took me a while to figure out new things to try and how to stop doing all the things I was already doing that were pushing him away and destroying my marriage, but every time I figured something out, it was like magic.      Suddenly, that particular situation never again had the old result.      All the fights stopped.      Sex came back, strong.      I started to be able to sleep through the night, and for the first time in a very long time, I slept curled up in his arms.      I’d learned how to actually undo all the damage.      And it happened so quickly it was as though things had never been bad – as if the nightmare had never even happened.      It was as if there’d always been the easy communication and love flowing between us that I was now experiencing.      Now, every day, my marriage gets better.      We go through challenges together, instead of in tension and conflict.      I know you can have the kind of great relationship I have now– and you can have it come together even faster than I did, because you don’t have to go through the trial-and-error and make the same mistakes over and over again like I did.      That’s why I’m going to give you a few of the most important mistakes myself and most other women make: Mistake #1: Pretending Everything is OK      If you’re like I was, you’ve worked hard to show your man a positive attitude.      It seems so right to be extra understanding of his needs and his stress and frustration about work.      It seems like the “cool” thing to do to give him “space” and “time.”      If he doesn’t call, it makes sense to try to get in touch, to call him and email him, because we know how “busy” he is and we want to make sure he knows we care.      We’re extra careful to let him know we’re available to him (because his schedule is so “busy”), and we’re especially careful to let him know we understand him and his needs.      We’re afraid to say “No” to anything he asks.      We’re afraid to disappoint him, or to make him angry.      It just seems that the smartest thing to do is make everything pleasant, easy and fun for him, so that he’ll want to be with us as much as we want to be with him.      We keep a smile on our face as much as we can, and then beat ourselves up when we don’t really feel like smiling and can’t help letting some of our disappointment and frustration out.      And we wish with all our hearts that he didn’t have such a hold on us. That we didn’t love him so much.      It’s so unfair, I know, but being understanding of his needs and taking up the slack when he “doesn’t have time” to connect by doing it for the both of you has the exact opposite effect of what we want.      Instead of bringing him closer, it pushes him away – just as much as if you were shoving him with your fists.      This happens for many reasons – here are the two big ones:      I don’t know if you know it, but men are VERY uncomfortable being on the receiving end of too much “nurturing” from a woman they are in love with.      It reminds them of their mothers, or the way they wish their mother had been... and that’s just not sexy or appealing at all to a man.      A man wants to be with a woman he DESIRES. Not with a woman who reminds him of or treats him like “mommy”.      When, as women, we’re being “understanding” of a man’s bad behavior (and yes – he knows he’s behaving badly)... did you know that a man often experiences this as US being NEEDY and insecure?      It’s almost unthinkable to us as women that this would be the outcome from giving more understanding to someone. But with a man in a relationship with a woman, this is how HE sees this.      Too many women pretend all the bad things a man is doing, or all the ways he’s not loving, appreciating, or respecting them is okay. Most of the time we make up EXCUSES for him to explain why he isn’t doing his part, and we tell ourselves it’s because we’re being loving and understanding of the men in our lives.      But this doesn’t work for men, or for us.      There’s a better way... Mistake #2: We Make Him Feel Bad About Making Us Feel Good      In addition to constantly trying to make him happy, we also want to show HIM how to make US happy.      We want him to be affectionate.      We want him to tell us we look pretty.      We want him to confide in us, open up and connect with us.      And because we want these things, we try to make him DO these things the way we want them done.      But the moment we try to direct a man, both of us feel bad.      We feel unsatisfied in the first place because we had to ask, and then we’re doubly unsatisfied because the efforts he makes based on our directions aren’t usually what we really want anyway.      And our man feels badly for two big reasons:      One, he feels bad because he doesn’t feel that we trust him (because we asked for something or gave him directions), and      Two, because he can SEE that we’re not happy with how he was doing things on his own in the first place. No Matter How Bad It Seems,There’s A Way To Reconnect Your Relationship, Bring Your ManClose Again... And Turn The WholeThing Around      For most of our lives, we’ve all been taught to hold in certain kinds of feelings. And we’ve been taught to, like my family put it “Put a good face on things.”      If we do this long enough, we lose the ability to express ourselves authentically. We lose the ability pretty much to express ourselves at all.      And when we DO express ourselves, it comes out sounding as if we don’t trust or respect our man, and he feels bad, like he’s let us down, and then angry, and then he just doesn’t want to be around us anymore.      Sometimes it’s so subtle we don’t even notice it.      Things will go along and seem fine, and then all of a sudden, you notice he’s emotionally not close to you at all. It’s as though the relationship phone got disconnected.      By the time my husband was withdrawing so much that I could no longer pretend it wasn’t really happening, I’d been “putting a good face” on things for a long time.      I’d been doing the two mistakes over and over and over again – practically from morning to night.      I couldn’t let anything just BE. I felt so distrustful of him doing what needed to be done or what I wanted him to do that I’d mention it, or remind him all the time.      He’d either snap at me and I’d feel angry and a bit frightened at the state of the relationship, or he’d tell me he’d do it, agree to a date or a plan of action, and then later he’d either come up with an excuse, or it just never happened.      I felt confused more than anything, because it seemed HELPFUL, what I was doing.      I wasn’t yelling at him, or being angry, or telling him how awful he was – I was just “simply” making my request and being a “good girl” by following up.      I was spending almost all of my time on edge around him, holding in my anger and frustration.      I was spending almost all of my energy trying to smooth things over, and help things along, and take care of things quietly so he wouldn’t think I was stepping on his toes.      I was trying hard to prove I was the great woman and great wife I wanted him to see me as. I wanted him to automatically do all the things he knew I wanted him to do and just...make me happy!      I spent my life with him trying hard to get him to make me happy.      Nothing I read, no therapy I went to, nothing I tried worked.      Things got worse and worse, until I could hardly breathe.      Until I finally tried something I’d never tried before.      I STOPPED TRYING.      I stopped asking him to do things – and more importantly – I stopped doing them myself.      I focused on making myself happy instead of trying to make HIM happy, or trying to GET HIM to make ME happy.      I spoke to him differently than I ever had before.      I experimented with letting him know how I was feeling instead of keeping everything bottled up and trying to hold it together.      I experimented with trusting him more instead of trying to make sure everything was going smoothly.      I stopped trying to make sure things never got messy or unpleasant.      I stopped saying “Yes” and “Okay” to everything, and I stopped doing my usual play-by-play analysis of how things were going.      And it worked.      It worked fast.      Within about two weeks, everything had changed. It was like the nightmare had never even happened.      It was as if everything had always been great – the way everything was great now.      I’d somehow figured out how to Reconnect with him, and how to keep us connected. You Don’t Have To Suffer Through Another One Of ThoseUp-Worrying-In-The-Middle-Of-The-Nights Like I Did...Ever Again      When I needed my marriage to turn around, the thing was, I had absolutely no one to help me through this process.      Here I was, in totally unfamiliar relationship territory, talking and being in completely new ways, feeling uncertain – and yet getting fabulous results!      Being happy, and letting my man make HIMSELF happy by making ME happy felt totally new.      It was almost stunning how fast it all happened.      It was kind of scary- CONNECTING on such a deep level with the man I’d been accidentally pushing away for so long.      But it FELT SO GOOD, and I felt so good about myself that it was easy to keep doing this new behavior I was discovering.      And it was just so clear to me, and so obvious to everyone who saw us together that everything about our relationship was different and incredibly, newly wonderful.      It was then that I started getting asked for relationship advice from women who’d known me and my husband before and after.      They wanted to copy what I was doing, and I was happy to help.      The years and pain of all the trial-and-error I went through finally got me to the place where I was able to relate to men in a completely new way.      And that new way of being with men that makes it so that every single moment you spend with a man - whether it's a first meeting, or a first date, or an evening with a man you've been with for months or years - feels great and gets you closer to the relationship you want, is what I'm here to help you experience in my new, 6-CD program, Reconnect Your Relationship.      Whether you feel like you're running out of options and every man you meet is the wrong man, or you're tormented by the possibility that you could be, after all this time, in a dead-end relationship, there's another way to get what you want...      We all know, as frustrating as it is, that you can't just plain, flat-out force a man to do and say everything you want him to so he'll be your perfect partner (and trust me – you wouldn’t want him if you could!),      But...       YOU CAN INSPIRE HIM To WANT To Be The Perfect Partner For You.        My newest program Reconnect your Relationship will teach you how to shift your words and body language so that your man will actually work hard to connect with YOU, rather than you struggling to connect with him.      You’ll finally understand WHY a man withdraws - no matter how “in love” he seemed to be - and what signs and signals to look for that it’s starting to happen to you.      You’ll get exactly the help you need – step-by-step How-Tos – so you can bring him back from the brink even stronger than the way he was when he first met you.      You’ll learn how to lift your self-esteem and your spirits, and how to use whatever experiences you’ve had in the past - no matter how bad you think they were or how painful it is to remember them – to actually help yourself, right now, to get what you want.      You’ll start to feel strong instead of at the mercy of a man, and learn how to quickly turn your old, limiting beliefs and out-of-control emotions and fears into a POWERFUL sense of confidence in yourself that will attract a man like a magnet and keep him wanting you no matter what.      You’ll find out exactly how to communicate with him in a way he’ll not only hear, but that will engage him and make him want to make you happy.      If you really want to have love and a serious, strong, committed relationship with a man, any relationship techniques and strategies have to work for you so you can feel good and strong on your Inside, and get great results Outside in the world.      Reconnect Your Relationship will get you such quick results because it works from the Inside Out and the Outside In...at the same time. What You’ll Learn... Why trying to hang onto a man never works (even just WANTING to hang onto him is the worst thing you can do)...and the most powerful Tool to quickly REVERSE that in yourself and INSTANTLY STOP a man from withdrawing The ONE MISTAKE that makes him LOSE INTEREST faster than anything else, and exactly what to do instead How your insecurities can be your biggest ASSET and actually bring a man CLOSE if you use them in this new way I’ll talk and walk you through How what your friends say about men hating “emotions” is a LIE and exactly how to USE your feelings to have an ADVANTAGE over every other woman...men fall in love with you almost instantly when you learn to talk in this ONE WAY How to quickly Undo The Damage and TURN HIM TOWARD YOU - no matter how far away he seems right now The ONE CRUCIAL THING you must do to make a man want to COMMIT to you for FOREVER instead of for just the short term...and exactly HOW to do it Three FOOLPROOF Tools to make him work hard to get close to YOUR HEART instead of just your body...so you’ll quickly find yourself RECEIVING LOVE...no matter how frustrated and afraid you are right now An easy way to learn to BE VULNERABLE without risking your heart or wasting time on the wrong man The KEY to bringing a man closer INSTANTLY...by telling him something that will change the way he’s thinking about you (I’ll walk you through it, word-by-word) Most women have difficulty handling the intense emotions that come up when a man wants to get closer...and end up PUSHING HIM AWAY...learn what to do so you can AVOID making this deadly mistake at the critical moment in your relationship An EASY TECHNIQUE to squash that nasty, critical voice inside your head that absolutely DRAINS you of your self-esteem (so you can relax and make the right decisions for your relationship, based on what YOU need) How using one particular EMOTION can actually draw a man toward you (and it’s one that you’re probably feeling already...I’ll show you exactly how to channel it to DRAW HIM IN) How to improve your relationship almost 180 degrees overnight...a simple exercise that has to do with HOW YOU FEEL Two things you can do to let him see that you truly Love Yourself...so he’ll feel COMPELLED TO LOVE YOU How dating other men actually IMPROVES your chances for relationship success...and how to use “dating” when you’re in a committed relationship (no, it’s not about seeing other men...you’ll be pleasantly surprised when you hear about this strategy) How using the objects you have around you right now can actually make you MORE CONFIDENT...the secret to this special mind-body connection A stunningly effective, QUICK Tool that will actually shift your “VIBE” and make you feel CONFIDENT instantly...it will change the way EVERY man relates to you...even if you’re feeling nervous or on edge at the moment you use it The answers to your SPECIFIC QUESTIONS about your relationship...so that you will know exactly how to handle what YOU are going through right now with your man LIES about Chemistry and Red Flags, and about men in general that have been DOOMING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS before they even get started...AND they’re not what you think The amazing “Write Speeches” Tool that teaches you how to speak to him...no matter how tense or challenging the situation is...so you can always have the BEST WORDS TO USE WITH A MAN How to have “the relationship talk” with any man in a way that will make him want to COMMIT TO YOU ALL BY HIMSELF...- without you ever even asking. Exactly what to say to a man that will make him ASK YOU for a commitment...instead of the other way around...so that his commitment is TRUE and REAL. How to create STRENGTH from what you now may think are your worst qualities, and turn them into the very things that will ATTRACT exactly the man and relationship you want into your life, and KEEP THEM forever. WHAT TO SAY when he consistently asks you out at the last minute so that he’ll BE MORE INTERESTED in you than ever and think twice before he tries to take advantage of you again How to date more than one man at a time – Yes! You can do it! - so that you can keep your focus off of any one man and bring them all CLOSER SPECIFIC SCRIPTS to get you through ANY situation or problem with a man...no matter how afraid or angry you feel...so that you project CONFIDENCE and CALM and inspire loving and generous feelings in HIM      And when you make up scripts with your own WORDS, using my Feeling Messages and Don't Want Messages, and then try them out with men - you'll see amazing, almost instantaneous results.      When you use body language to shift what I call “The Energy Exchange” between you and any man, you'll get incredible, almost instantaneous results.      And all those results that come simply from what’s going on outside you (what you say and do) will change the way you feel on the INSIDE.      So it works both ways - from “outside in” and from “inside out” – and using your “inner” and “outer” Tools works twice as fast as anything else you've ever tried.      I'm here to give you new Tools, and help you USE your new Tools for your own unique relationship situation and your own special personality.      To see for yourself how my Reconnect Your Relationship CD program can help you have the relationship you want, you'll want to listen to it over and over again, whenever and wherever you want.          Place a Bid!